Intimate partner violence has occurred much more frequently today and despite the fact that it has always existed in different cultures, it has spread to more parts of the world making it one of the current evils, which few want to talk about, about what many psychologists write and about what many people are interested in stopping suffering, also related to gender violence.
Factors of intimate partner violence.
Generally, women are the victims of intimate partner violence, suffering in turn from anguish, desperate thoughts and in many cases causing a state of guilt, a completely wrong aspect but it is the most likely to suffer, and the one that benefits the most. to the aggressor.
People who are facing a scenario of intimate partner violence by the aggressor can suffer cycles of reconciliation and aggression, in which it is difficult for them to leave without professional help and can cause very possible behavior problems.
Intimate partner violence affects the whole family.
On the other hand, violence in the couple maintained by one of the spouses not only affects their relationship, but also the mentality and behavior of the children, if there are any and, in many cases, other members of the family. family turning these ties into conflictive situations with abuse and other types of aggressions, such as threats and deceit.
The children, as well as the couple, undertake a course of defensive mental behavior for those who abuse them and progressively promote actions that allow them to free themselves from that environment, from accepting the accusations and threats of the aggressor, to fleeing or denouncing him.
Factors that determine intimate partner violence.
1- Apologies after big discussions or lawsuits are the daily bread.
However, you must be clear that if you allow them to mistreat you once, they will continue to do so for life without the intention of changing, for nothing or for anyone even if they are based on false promises. In turn, the more times you allow it, the violent behaviors in your partner will be less constant but undoubtedly much stronger and more dangerous, being able to commit acts of which they will surely regret, with the difference that the damage will be totally irreversible.
2- More conflicts than solutions.
Happy couples are characterized by sharing, enjoying moments together, supporting each other, being with each other in difficult times and of course, giving each other security at all times, and despite the conflicts that may arise, respect always prevails. But if love, support and security do not exist in your relationship, it is possible that you are having a relationship based on violence, even if it is subtle and those moments that happy couples live can only be enjoyed in your mind.
3- There is no respect or communication.
Violence can often be verbal, and it can even be present in acts and gestures that humiliate and mistreat. These actions make all these objectives that are sought in a happy relationship, stay apart and without a certain time, losing mutual respect and adding fear to the victim of the aggressor.
The aspects of this type of abuse include physical abuse, as well as verbal and psychological abuse, and they are ways that will never build the union of the couple, and although many times they seem subtle signs, they are a warning that you are not in a healthy relationship.
4- Physical and psychological discomfort.
The effects that occur due to these situations are multiple, they can cause from physical pain, to bad thoughts, negative desires, isolation in society, depression with or without suicidal ideas and work difficulties due to the constant harassment caused by the aggressor in any area towards the victim.
Abuse by the aggressor, in whatever way, is conduct that should not be allowed under any conditions. Although your excuses are uncontrolled impulses, you should not allow any act of violence for yourself, or for your children if you have them.
If you are suffering from any of these situations in your relationship , start by seeking help, a specialist in the subject could guide you towards the solution, but this must begin with your decision to end that relationship.